India is a land of rich culture and wide religions, the national Epic story be Ramayana and Mahabharata. Where women are worshiped with great respect and dignity. From Sita in Ramayana to Draupadi in Mahabharata, both had shown their valour significantly in times. But crimes against women are not new, right from Treta yuga and Dwapara yuga. But creating false accusations of crimes happening against women have started from Kal yuga.
Draupadi, Yajna Seeni, born from Agni (fire), was an illegitimate child of her father, Drupad. He, who wanted a son for the protection of his kingdom, prays to God, receives his prasad (blessings) and a son is born. But with son, a daughter is also been blessed to him, which he doesn’t want to accept, as he thinks, daughters are weak and incompetent in protecting their father or his kingdom and curses every damn thing for her and asks God, to give an such a kid, who’s living should be hell but would never give up on life. And hence, Draupadi takes birth.
What makes her a true feminist? Firstly, she never played a woman card on all the wrong things that happened to her. Right after Arjuna wins Draupadi in her Swayamwar and takes her to meet his mother Kunti (wife of king Pandu and mother of Pandavas). She always had a habit of asking her sons to share whatever they’ve got among themselves. She did so that, it’ll improve their feeling of brotherhood. But that day unfortunately, when Arjuna said, he has got something. Kunti says the same. After learning the mistake she committed, she asks her son to let go of their mother’s words and forgive her. Dharma Raja Yudhishthira says, once a mother orders her sons something, it has to be followed. Miserably, Draupadi says, she’ll accept whatever mata (mother) Kunti ordered and would marry all the five Pandavas, saying, not following her orders would make four of her children (other than Arjuna) to take Saannyas (Renunciation) and doing so would kill Pandu’s dream of seeing Yudhishthira as Sravasrest Raja (world best king). The lesson to be learnt from this for today’s generation is,
It doesn’t takes a minute to spoil someone’s life by playing victim card. The feminism doesn’t lies in defaming male’s character falsely, but it lies in analysing the situation properly. And taking decisions that doesn’t harm’s one’s life or family.
When her husband, Yudhishthira put her on stake, she fights for herself and questions her husband over what rights they’ve got to put a woman on stake, even if she is their wife. With utmost courage and confidence, she got from her education, speaks about dharma (righteous) and questions every senior member in the courtyard. And when king Dhritarashtra asks her of her wish for the disgraceful happened to her, she asked for freeing all her husbands from slavery in spite of whatever happened with her. Here, she gives a lesson, even if you are wronged, make sure to free your dear ones from their struggles and this would do your own good.
What lead to her Vastraharana (stripping)? Being righteous and courageous. Just to avoid family’s disintegration, she suggests her husband Samrat Yudhishthira, to take away weapons from Duryodhana, Dussasana and Angha Raja Karna for taking their weapons in Indraprasth courtyard, saying, taking away weapons from warriors is also considered as a punishment. The outcome of the same lead to her Vastraharana in Hastinapura courtyard. Thinking of the family’s integrity was a testament for the same family’s devastation. There she gave a lesson, no matter how the world is treating you for your fate, stay brave, fight for the right, think of the betterment of society, and wear courage as a tiara.
Lastly, she was ready to let go of her wrongdoers when she learnt of losing all her children in the war. But keeping in mind, letting them go would make complete Aryaavarta (country) a living hell for women, and decided to sacrifice her sons for this betterment.
Overall she was an epitome of courage, feminism and righteousness. She left behind a mark of what true feminism is. Pointing down few things which actually makes you feminist:
- Never play a women card.
- Don’t ever defame a male, just to prove yourself right.
- Understand biology both the genders aren’t the same, each has it’s own pros and cons.
- Take a stand for you and your family first.
- Just to outshine yourself, don’t defame other females. You grow with uplifting one.
- Being rude and arrogant won’t make you cool and any feminist.
- False allegations over someone for you’re benefit is wrong.
- Take stand for all wrongdoing happening around you, fiercely.
- Make sure what’s right and wrong before taking a stand for anything. Be honest.
- You are your own responsibility.
If you can relate yourself to at least 4 points, you are near to feminism. There are many more points about Draupadi that we, younger generation need to learn to know what feminism actually is. Alas! Unfortunately, we think reading our religious books is not cool and happening. I suggest you, go read Gita, you’ve got answers for all you today’s problems.